What’s going on? My daughter is in the 8th grade, about to start high school, but still has meltdowns! Help!
You’ve gone through the toddler and elementary school meltdowns and thought you’d catch a break. However, your child’s social and academic stress may be increasing. Emotional and reactive responses to what seem to be everyday occurrences might escalate. What happens -- and how can you help?
Many parents describe kids prone to reactive meltdowns as “sensitive,” “bright,” “creative,” “empathetic,” and “compassionate.” At times, the same kid is just overwhelmed with stress.
When your child reacts with a meltdown, your body is flooded with the stress hormone Cortisol. Both you and your child now feel out of control. So, what can you do? It helps to be aware of your own responses and feelings, like putting on the oxygen mask before you can help anyone else.
As you become more confident in your new way of responding, you will have a tremendous impact on your child’s ability to self-soothe. You are modeling calm responses and helping your child communicate his or her emotions in the moment. In the process, you are helping your child become more resilient.
|Deborah Brautman, M.S., LMFT||